Weddings are a chance for families and friends to come together to celebrate a joyous occasion, but sometimes certain people can't attend. Whether it be because they've passed away, inability to travel or another circumstance, there can still be ways to commemorate that person and make them a part of the wedding. Here are a few suggestions from Glamour.com on how to involve even those who can't attend.
- Leave a "reserved" seat: Place a picture of the loved one in a designated chair so you can still feel as though they are there. If they are skyping from another location, place the laptop in their seat (make sure to do plenty of tests to ensure it's working properly). Be sure to put the picture of the loved one in a heavy frame so it doesn't blow away during the ceremony.
- Give them a "shout out" in the program: Keep it short and sweet and just mention that even though you love them they couldn't be here today. Remember this is a happy occasion so no one wants to be crying over a lost loved one when they should be crying happy tears for the couple.
- Display their favorite things: If the loved one really loved a certain candy or type of flower, find a way to incorperate it into the wedding day. While it's not an outright reference, those who knew and love the person will understand the significance and make them feel as though that loved one is still there.
- Mention them in the speech: Again, remember this is a happy occasion so keep it short and sweet. By making a note during the service or reception, they're being brought to attention and everyone will know they're missed.
- Donations to a charity on behalf of the loved one: In lieu of gifts, the bride and groom may choose to donate money to a charity that represents that person. Whether it's for cancer research or a donation to their church, doing something to honor those who can't be there is a great way to involve them and make a difference in the world.
For those involved in wedding planning, like those taking wedding planner training courses at Ashworth College, what other ideas do you have? Did you have a way to remember loved ones in your wedding?